I was talking to one of my mentees today and she sparked a fire in me so I wanted to share it today. We were having a daily session, and in the middle of the session she stopped and asked me, “What really makes a woman beautiful?” I asked her if she talked to her mother about it, and she replied, “Of course I have!” I always ask my girls if they have discussed things with their parents first because my job is to team with the family to strengthen the values they are trying to instill. I then asked, “Well, what did she say when you asked her?” She replied, “It is how you groom yourself, you know, keeping your hair done, nails done, ironing your clothes to look presentable, and wearing make-up and stuff.”
I didn’t want to discredit her Mother, so I added, “Well, that is part of beauty; however, there is more to it.” She asked, “What else?” I asked her, “Why is it so important you?” She replied, “Because I do all that my Mother said, and I still don’t feel beautiful.” I could have cried a river because I felt her pain as if I went back 19 years ago, to that little girl who didn’t feel so beautiful in spite of the name brand clothes, and me getting my hair done. At that very moment, I felt her pain and I knew that I could free her from it. So, I gave her a hug, made her some tea, and we ended our session talking about “What Really Makes a Woman Beautiful.”
If a young girl walked up to you and asked you to define beauty, what would you tell her?