Declaring June “Take The Time” Month


Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Proverbs – Chapter 22:6

I was sitting on the countertop in my kitchen and received a text stating that one of my students tried to commit suicide and was in ICU. Instead of immediately feeling saddened about the situation, I felt livid with a rage that I haven’t felt in almost 20 years. I thought, “If he had a stronger support system, would he be in this situation? “Who would his support system consist of, and the answer is his parents FIRST. When I first met AP (made-up initials to refer to him) he was just getting out of juvenile and was so excited about trying to get back on the right path. He was living with his single parent Mother and he didn’t’ want to talk about his Father, so I assumed he wasn’t present. He shared that his other two brothers were in juvenile and they were all getting out in weeks-time. The last time I saw him was on my birthday, May 5th. He was smiling on that day and he said he hadn’t laugh so much in a long time. Then, on May 30th, I get a text saying that he was in ICU for trying to commit suicide.

For that reason, I am declaring the month of June “Take the Time” to be a better parent month. Take the time to spend every moment you can with your kids. A trip to the park, dinner together, prayer together, daily talks, a walk at the mall, or participation at his/her activities. TAKE THE TIME! Parents, and guardians, you have to sacrifice something in order to see change, and the greatest sacrifice is your time. Your money means really nothing to them….YES….it doesn’t! Trade your life for their life and watch how much stronger and powerful they become! The parents should be the first discovered role model of a child. It is our responsibility to show our kids what growth, success, maturity, respect, self-esteem, diligence, power, humility, and etc. look like. It’s our jobs to show our kids what the world look like and sound like and when we don’t, their life becomes harder and more challenging. Most of the time, defeat sets in and conquers them totally.

So please, join Defining Me, and Helping Youth Prepare for Excellence, Inc., as we make June our month to “Take The Time,” 2 spend at least 1 hour of quality time with your kid(s) every day in the month of June. It is going to be a tremendous sacrifice for many of you, but the sacrifice will begin a healing process that you can’t even imagine. It will break down barriers and habits, or create a stronger bond for those that already have become a master at this. I am not a parent, but I mentor many kids that are so broken by the lack of parenting and communication they are not getting from their parents. Please, help me out….I am begging you. Share your story with me and become a role model and inspiration to other parents that may need a support system to help them, “Take the Time.”


6 Comments Add yours

  1. Y,stacia [Defining Me] Declaring June “Take The Time” Month
    This was so touching. Around 2 years ago I lost that connection with my teen because I started working a part-time job. That really made our relartionship go up into flames but I got tired of not being able to do extra stuff we needed. By reading your post, she really doenst care about the extra does she? I am going to re-evaluate some things and get back with you. Thank you!

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    1. Thank you for sharing. All your daughter want is you. She wants your presence, your approval, and your friendship. If you are not around to give this to her, then no she doesn’t care about the stuff. I would love to hear from her later to see how you have reconnected the communication back into your home. She is lucky to have a Mom like you and just keep pushing through until you find a comfortable place to stand still. Till we speak again.

  2. Name: Mrs.R. Al-Uqdah
    Comment: Your blog is so INSPIRING! It really made me take a look at how I value my time with my children/family. I’m VERY BLESSED to have such a LOVELY FAMILY! PLEASE JOIN Mrs.Anderson,we have one life to live and give it freely to your children.We MUST TEACH THEM THE WAY,GOD BLESS EVERYONE WHO reads this. I will be spending time with my daughter by attending more or her activities and motivating her to do more. We have a workshop Sunday that we are attending with H.Y.P.E Inc and I can’t wait!

    1. Roshunda,

      I always look foward to this Mother/Daughter duo. You are doing a great job in keeping up with beautiful Cayla. I love the interaction that the two of your share and it will get stronger. When you get some time, let me know what the both of you learned from your Sunday’s class.

  3. Tina says:

    Since you posted this brilliant blog, I have been spending a lot of time with my son. His dad and I have been seperated for the past 2 years and it has been hard on us both. However, in the past couple of days of spending more time with him, he has a new glow to himself. It was awkard at firts, but we are getting through it. Today, we went Roller Blading and we are in Arizona! Be back with more updates.

    1. Oh Tina…Good for you!!! What was the greatest moment when he started opening back to you? You gave him the greatest gift that is so priceless….His glow back. I know you went into the closet and cried didn’t you..LOL. I love it!!!!

      Keep it up and do not fall off because it will cause you a great set back. If you do this for 30 days straight, you will be able to sit down with him and create a Mother/Son schedule where you can then add some flexibility to your new found relationship. I can’t wait to hear more.

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